September

Dreams, Intuition and the Inner Life

September is a pivotal month during which the outward-directed energy of summer begins to shift inward in preparation for the six months spent in the darkness of the Earth Mother’s womb.

This month we will review our lives in the form of spiritual autobiography. We will open our sixth sense by noticing synchronicities, and we will enter the world of dreams. September is the gateway to Mystery, and as the Medicine Wheel turns from summer to fall, we are greeted by the Archangel Raphael–the Healer of God–who remedies the sickness of belief in perfection by administering the great medicine of wholeness. Listen to the voices of the Ancient Ones who call from the mycelial mat that grows beneath the forest floor:

The inner and outer harvests are complete and the storehouse of the unconscious is swept clean. We enter the Gates of Mystery through the Dreamworld descending into the fertile darkness in which our souls are made new again.

excerpt from Pocketful of Miracles: Prayers, Meditations, and Affirmations to Nurture Your Spirit Every Day of the Year, by Joan Borysenko, Ph.D.

My yoga teacher reads to us during savasana and this is what she read the other morning. It’s been hanging with me as so much of it has been feeling so true and right as we enter this new month that I want to share it. My dreams have been hauntingly real. Have yours? Things I’ve been needing, like gathering with friends and family, have seemingly just happened for me– synchronicity’s clearly at play. What synchronicities are you noticing? The “great medicine of wholeness” has been deftly offered to me in difficult-to-swallow, yet somehow just-right doses. Dark moments have come on mysteriously and left me clearer and even energized as I rode them out, grasping their meaning when I could and trusting my strength and safety through the discomfort. There’s something here about enoughness, I think. This inflection point between summer and fall being the time that we get to notice, perhaps for this first time, areas where we’ve been trying too hard seeking perfection, areas that need to heal.

I wonder what messages lie in my Dreamworld? This passage has given me food for thought and a bit of the magical spark that I love to move me onward and upward toward the coming season. What does the transition toward fall-time mean for you?

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The Healing Edge: an Introduction

One of the things I’ve been blessed with in my life is a very rich yoga practice. For me, it’s become my wisest teacher, surprising me with new insights and a felt sense of rightness each time I practice. The concept of the healing edge was introduced to me through yoga and has been persistent in my practice from nearly the beginning. It’s become a hugely helpful tool for growth as I bring what I’ve learned and continue to learn in yoga into my entire life.

In a nutshell, the healing edge is that place in you where, if you push past it, you risk injury, and if you don’t quite reach it, you stay in the status quo. Your healing edge is that place of balanced effort and surrender where you find equanimity. I’ve found that it seems to be somewhere between 50 and 70% exerted effort. You go too far and you’re struggling, flailing, hurting yourself (or even others); not far enough and you feel like you’re lazing your way through, not trying at all. You feel bored, stuck in the same ol’ place, or wonder “what’s the point of this? it’s too easy.” The healing edge is that luscious place in between, it’s that moving thread of just-right balance where insight is alive and possibility is transformed into something that really IS.

This healing edge is particularly helpful for those of us who are in a state of perpetual growth, always learning and striving to be better. I’ve been using it a bunch lately to work past difficult patches and the effect has been nothing short of transformative! It has helped me to tap into my internal wisdom, using it as my guide, to grow stronger, more courageous and easy-going. As a  highly sensitive person, I’m prone to overwhelm at certain times and I’ve gotten pretty good at managing those times that are environmental or emotional in nature, but things get a bit tricky when the question of the purpose of my existence comes into play.

Perhaps this concept is totally new to you, so let me break it down. The idea of the healing edge has to do with the fact that the physical growth of living things happens at the edges. Two examples come to mind… Imagine a sprouting seed, for one example. Under the right conditions, a dry, hard seed placed into soil will eventually sprout and transform into something grander, more substantial, more effective, more whole — its ultimate plant form. It is at its healing edge where both new growth springs forth and old tissues die away.

Picture taken from http://www.steve.gb.com/science/plant_growth

As the seed swells and cracks through its outer shell, the cells of the sprout differentiate to become the first leaves, stem and rootlings of this new plant, the leaves grow and unfold, creating a pressure that eventually bursts forth from the hard outer casing entirely. The rootlings turn to roots,nbsp; becoming thicker and more effective at drawing nutrients and water as they reach downward and outward, expanding their hold and growing their network. The tiny petiole of a stem that was once tucked between the first leaves and the rootlings of this new seedling, widens as it lengthens, developing its structure especially designed for supporting the plant physically and providing a sort of conduit through which nutrients and water flow. The earliest leaves unfurl and spread as they follow the path of the apical meristem of the original germ, that persistent place in this budding form where cell differentiation initiates. This is the place where the cells of the new leaves, stems, and branches, possibly even flowers and fruit if it’s in the plant’s nature to develop those, get their functional assignments and transform from the same-same cells of the early seed to the reaching, growing, absorbing, breathing, supporting cells of the growing plant’s whole self. The plant continues to grow as its cells differentiate throughout its entire life. It is at that place of differentiation where the healing edge of this plant resides.

Now, let’s bring this into the human realm. My favorite pose in yoga for finding my healing edge at this stage in my personal growth and yoga practice is Parsvottanasana because of its rich offerings of strengthening and flexibility in nearly every part of the body all at once. This pose creates an experience for me to feel wholly into those places of growth within my body and offers the fringe benefit of calming the mind. When I hold the pose long enough, exerting just the right amount of effort to maintain my alignment while deepening the stretch, breathing into it deeply to create space and relax into a place of feeling physically supported and held, I can begin to feel into those places of growth within my psyche and my soul. A simpler pose I’d like to offer is Upavistha Konasana (seated wide angle) as a another example of finding your healing edge so that you, too, can begin to bring it into your life. Check out Jess Ryan’s video as she demonstrates. Notice how she speaks of “finding your own edge” about 2:40 minutes into the recording. As you practice this pose, you might even notice how you can find your own edge not only in how far you lean forward, but in the width of the angle of your legs, or even in the subtle nuances you can feel as you release into the pose. This is a great place to begin developing your awareness of this concept of the healing edge in your body so you can then begin bringing this awareness with you as you go about living your whole and beautiful life.

What other examples can you draw on from your own vast knowledge base to help you to find and explore your healing edge? Can you find it? How can you use it to nourish and germinate the seed of your intention — the purpose behind your very existence? It just takes practice. Let it work its magic in you … one breath at a time.

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Interested vs. Interesting

My thoughts keep coming back to themes that were introduced to me while reading Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, by Mark Goulston and I’d like to share one of those themes here for you to give you a taste of the nature of the power of just listening that the author presents.

But let’s back up a little first, as this topic requires a little background. From Chapter 2: “A Little Science: How the Brain Goes from ‘No’ to ‘Yes.’” Here, the author gives the reader a quick lesson in brain physiology. We humans have a three-part brain, each part interconnected with the others while prone to acting autonomously, especially when we’re under stress. I’ll paraphrase his brief description of each part here:

“The lower reptilian brain is the “fight-or-flight” part of your brain. . . . all about acting and reacting, without a lot of thinking going on. It can also leave you frozen in a perceived crisis–the ‘deer-in-the-headlights’ response. The middle mammal brain is the seat of your emotions. It’s where powerful feelings–love, joy, sadness, anger, grief, jealousy, pleasure–arise. The upper or primate brain is . . . the part that weighs a situation logically and rationally and generates a conscious plan of action. [It] collects data from the reptile and mammal brains, sifts it, analyzes it, and makes practical, smart, and ethical decisions.”

Dr. Goulston goes on to demonstrate how getting through to people has everything to do with talking to them when their upper brain is not being eclipsed by its more primal brethren. …and since we are often wanting to get through to people who are close to us, like friends, family, coworkers, or even clients, when they are upset or stressed or freaking out about something, it’s very helpful to know that there are ways to “talk a person up from reptile to mammal to human brain.” This chapter also briefly introduces us to some specialized nerve cells called mirror neurons. It is believed by many scientists and others who study these things that these cells “may form the basis for human empathy. . . . they briefly make us feel what another person is feeling, like when you cringe when you watch a coworker get a paper cut. For an instant, it’s just as if it’s happening to you, and, in a way, it is.

Dr. Goulston’s clinical studies support his theory that “we constantly mirror the world, conforming . . . trying to win its love and approval. And each time we mirror the world, it creates a little reciprocal hunger to be mirrored back. If that hunger isn’t filled, we develop what [Dr. Goulston] refers to as ‘mirror neuron receptor deficit.’ In today’s world, it’s easy to imagine that deficit growing into a deep ache. Many people . . . feel that they give their best, only to be met day after day with apathy, hostility or (possibly worst of all) no response at all.” In a nutshell, providing the much-needed response helps another to feel felt.

Now, on to Chapter 6, “Be More Interested Than Interesting.” The boiled down piece of advice given here is this: if you’d like someone to be interested in you, don’t try to be interesting. Be really and truly interested in them. “The more you narrow the person’s mirror neuron receptor deficit, the more intrigued the person is with you in return, and the more empathy the person feels toward you.”

Imagine what the world would be like if everywhere we went people were interested! Gorgeous! (okay, maybe that’s a little frightening, but imagine if at least the people you wish were interested were interested!)

There’s a tremendous amount of other powerfully useful information contained in this book and I highly recommend it. I particularly appreciate the straight-forward style that the author uses, which makes the very rich content easy to take in. He not only gives helpful tips on relating to others on a level that can bring about significant shifts for the individuals involved, but I was particularly impressed that he suggests how the reader can turn these tips on themselves to deepen the learning, further develop and become a better listener.

If you’ve read this book or would like to read it, let’s continue the conversation in the comment section below. …and please, if you feel in any way pressured by this recommendation, to read, to grow, to participate — I, too, have a growing pile of books (metaphoric and for real) that I’ve yet to read, accompanied by a growing pile of things to work on and engage with and will never get to them all in this life, so I totally hear you — just take in what I’ve shared here and let that be enough for now. :o )

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